{"id":125,"date":"2017-05-01T16:23:31","date_gmt":"2017-05-01T16:23:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sirjohn.org\/coachingblog\/?p=125"},"modified":"2017-05-01T16:24:09","modified_gmt":"2017-05-01T16:24:09","slug":"the-importance-of-knowin0g-how-to-coach-properly","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sirjohn.org\/coachingblog\/2017\/05\/01\/the-importance-of-knowin0g-how-to-coach-properly\/","title":{"rendered":"THE IMPORTANCE OF KNOWING HOW TO COACH PROPERLY"},"content":{"rendered":"
I think this article is the perfect way to kick off my new blog. We will be discussing topics like this every week here<\/div>\n
Johnny Ray<\/div>\n
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Leanne Faraday-Brash<\/a><\/div>\n

Coaching, Coaxing or Counselling – The Power of Executive Coaching<\/h1>\n
Management Articles<\/a> | January 7, 2008<\/a><\/div>\n\n\n\n
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This professional article contrasts coaching, therapy and manager-led development, espouses some of the benefits of executive coaching, asks whether everyone is a candidate for coaching, explores various models used and the professional backgrounds of credible coaches.<\/b>Three clients in the space of a week asked me if I\u2019d seen the Harvard Business Review article by Steven Berglas on \u201cThe Very Real Dangers of Executive Coaching (June 2002).\u201d\u00a0 One client was particularly interested in my reaction to the article\u2019s contention that coaching services provided by people who were not psychologically trained, experienced or skilled, could be destructive. It was only later that I realized our discussion around that issue had parallelled the coaching process. He set the agenda, I asked questions, we switched from a discussion about the article to a discussion about our coaching relationship and reaffirmed our \u201cpermissions\u201d to communicate with each other at any time if either of us were not satisfied about how things were progressing.\u00a0 My client made a final observation about the spontaneous fear that surfaced as he\u2019d read the article being possibly associated with a negative experience he had with a school counsellor in his teenage years.\u00a0\u00a0 It is unlikely that he would have otherwise made that connection simply by reading the article.\u00a0 It took the coaching process to help him identify his feelings of disquiet and how he might address them constructively.\u00a0 The coaching had made a difference.<\/p>\n

What is coaching?<\/p>\n

Corporate Coaching (with executives or others) is defined by the International Coaching Federation as \u201can ongoing process driven by the client which focuses on taking action towards the realisation of goals or desires.\u201d<\/i>\u00a0 These goals might include business improvement, leadership, workplace change, career , work\/life balance, or personal development.\u00a0 I have coached both clients who wanted unashamedly to focus on themselves and those who were focused on job performance, organisational transformation and team relationships. Many, of course, make the appropriate nexus between self development and people skills, leadership and change because they\u2019ve decided that if they work on themselves, the rest will follow.<\/p>\n

Why get a coach?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

We live in an era where we are time or resource poor. It is common nowadays to commission external providers of service.\u00a0 Engaging a coach however is not like engaging a domestic cleaner who performs\u00a0 the service for<\/i> us.<\/p>\n

Coaching\u00a0 enables the services of an impartial facilitator<\/i>,<\/p>\n

\u00b7\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 not a friend (who can get offended),<\/p>\n

\u00b7\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 not a boss (to whom you may not want to display frailty)<\/p>\n

\u00b7\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 not a mentor (where a power imbalance may exist or career may be the primary focus) and<\/p>\n

\u00b7\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 not a therapist (who is oriented to work with deficit and dysfunction).<\/p>\n

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Coaches are engaged because of their capacity for objectivity and certain skills that we (or others close to us) may not have. Coaching is often subtle, yet direct, confronting yet affirming, provocative yet non judgmental, intimate but not tender; ultimately empowering of the client whilst constantly calling for rigorous self examination.<\/p>\n

Coaches must be aware of their own baggage, be aware of their limitations, must work within the highest ethical standards and dare not seek to work with others in order to work through their own issues.\u00a0 That is not to say that coaches ought not seek to improve themselves.\u00a0 Most of the impressive coaches I have met, have coaches themselves.<\/p>\n

Is everyone a candidate for coaching?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Coaching can support the development of those who are highly motivated and also those identified for coaching who may not otherwise be enthusiastic candidates for change.<\/p>\n

To coach the so called \u201cuncoachable\u201d the coach has to help the client identify their reasons for maintaining the status quo, what homeostasis does or does not do for them and therefore what they stand to gain or lose by letting something go.\u00a0 If you think this sounds like a process with a psychological underpinning \u2013 you\u2019re right.\u00a0 I believe that a good life coach or corporate coach has to work within a knowledge framework that goes way beyond ethics and empathy. That coach has to understand cognitive dissonance, defence mechanisms, patterned behaviour; be able to tolerate ambiguity and welcome , even foster ambivalence at times.<\/p>\n

Importantly also, the professional coach must have the insight and the humility to know when they have a client who should be referred elsewhere, perhaps because of burnout, excessive anxiety, clinical depression, mental illness or severe concurrent stresses that may be impinging on work performance.<\/p>\n

There is undoubtedly far less stigma, and even arguably more prestige associated with consulting a coach than a therapist.\u00a0 If one considers that 20% of the population will experience some depression in their lives, then it is surely on the cards that some individuals who want or would benefit from therapy find their way to a coach.\u00a0 Can one manage a dual role?\u00a0 Can a coach be a therapist? I say yes, but four criteria must apply.\u00a0 The coach:<\/p>\n

\u00b7\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 has to have the expertise to do both<\/p>\n

\u00b7\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 has to be clear on which hat he\/she is wearing and when<\/p>\n

\u00b7\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 has to have a client contract that allows for it (or the client has lost control of the process)<\/p>\n

\u00b7\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 must not be breaching an understanding with the person or company who has paid for the coaching; for example, a coach being engaged by a company\u00a0 for leadership coaching but spends all their time helping the client manage their grief over a\u00a0 failed relationship or a looming child custody battle with their ex-partner.<\/p>\n

Choosing a Coach<\/p>\n

Obviously word of mouth helps but as a prospective client, you should be clear about the questions you ask someone being coached and what outcomes they have sought or you may find that you\u2019ve inadvertently engaged a personal fitness trainer or a business strategy specialist when your objective is to develop your emotional intelligence!<\/p>\n

I would recommend that a responsible coach\u00a0 meet with a prospective client at least once on a\u00a0 no fee basis to determine the \u2018fit\u201d.\u00a0 The fit is not purely or even about, likeability.<\/i><\/p>\n

To establish a coaching partnership, both parties must be confident they have:<\/p>\n

\u00b7\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 sufficient rapport to work together<\/p>\n

\u00b7\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 shared understanding of the goals and the process<\/p>\n

\u00b7\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 negotiated the frequency, cost, duration and format of contact time (how often, how long, minimum charge, ratio of face to face, email and telephone etc)<\/p>\n

\u00b7\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 resolved issues around confidentiality, personal and corporate goals and progress reporting (absolutely critical where the economic buyer of the coaching is not the coaching client) and also<\/p>\n

\u00b7\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 the circumstances under which coaching\u00a0 might adjourn i.e. at what point might it be acceptable for one party to express a desire to discontinue.<\/p>\n

I attended an international coaching conference some weeks ago and met some fantastic people.\u00a0 Many were undoubtedly highly skilled; all excited about making a difference but to whom?\u00a0 Many had solid backgrounds in marketing and business.\u00a0\u00a0 I can only hope they coached people in \u2026marketing and business. Some were personal trainers, some touted themselves as life coaches.\u00a0 A few had business cards that testified to this but when I chatted with them over coffee it became clear that they had been a financial accountant or a\u00a0 Reiki instructor some four or five weeks previously.\u00a0 In other words, some of these people were in transition themselves and saw coaching as a way of reinventing themselves.<\/p>\n

Coaching can be a wonderful tool, a source of competitive advantage for organisations, a retention strategy, a change management strategy,\u00a0 a stimulus for visionary leadership and a way to increase emotional intelligence in an organisation.<\/p>\n

We have examples all around us of coaches who\u2019ve enabled their charges to achieve more than they did when they were still competing \u2013 Jose Higueras who coaches Pete Sampras never achieved Sampras\u2019 stature as a player \u2013 and therapists and counsellors may not have experienced divorce, depression or eating disorders but are able to help clients with those life issues.\u00a0 In other words, the coach does not have to have \u201cbeen there\u201d to be credible and helpful\"Find<\/a>, but the coach has to know how to help clients work out where they want to go and facilitate a process that helps get them there in good shape.<\/p>\n

Source: Free Articles<\/a> from ArticlesFactory.com<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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